5 Fear conquering risks

Why toddlers need fear

In our early years, fear keeps us alive. 

Everything is potentially dangerous to the risk-oblivious toddler. It’s no wonder we’re all frantically flapping after our kids as they innocently plod about. “Stop licking the plug sockets!... Don’t climb out of the window!.. PUT THE KNIFE DOWN!”

It can seem like an unending task to teach children about the potential dangers that surround them. Eventually though, kids learn NOT to cuddle open fires, lick carving knives or run enthusiastically off cliffs and this wariness towards potential danger keeps them safe. It’s essential for toddlers to fear the various risks that surround them.

When fear flips

But soon the effect of fear reverses. In early childhood, fear keeps us safe. But as we grow up, holding onto those same fears becomes detrimental.

Fear leads to avoidance and avoidance breeds anxiety. If we continue trying to keep kids away from danger we actually lead them into a minefield of mental health. Cotton-wrapping kids is counterproductive. 

Unfortunately, this is increasingly the way that we’re parenting. Constantly monitoring children and mitigating any dangers whatsoever is a terrible idea, because the child never learns to risk assess for themselves. The epidemic of risk aversion has kept kids clear of danger. But in so doing has made them more vulnerable. 

Conquering Fear

Luckily there’s a better way. Not long after we’ve taught our children to avoid fire, knives and heights, we have to reapproach those same dangers with them and demonstrate how to handle risk safely.

Facing those learnt fears head on is the best way to conquer them.

This is a natural and absolutely essential part of human development. Luckily, succeeding at this developmental stage is wonderfully simple, accessible and free!

5 ways to conquer fear in the outdoors

So here are 5 simple and accessible activities that help your kid face fear head-on by taking simple risks that will grow their resilience and conquer anxiety:

    Conquered fear: Heights

    Recommended equipment: Helmet, ropes and harness if you’re going high

    Ideal age: 4+

    Make it more challenging: Make a rope swing or build a treehouse

    How to make it safe: Teach them to always have 3 points of contact (two feet, one hand etc). How to identify rotten branches. Checking holds before putting any weight on.

    Climbing trees and childhood should be synonymous. The beauty of this activity is how profoundly accessible it is. You don’t need to live near a national park or an area of outstanding natural beauty to do this. All you need is a tree. Risk assessment is intrinsic to tree climbing which grows kid’s risk-assessing muscle very quickly.

      Conquered fear: Open/deep water

      Recommended equipment: Life jacket, 360 snorkel mask and wetsuit (if cold)

      Ideal age: From when they can swim or use a suitably-sized life jacket.

      Make it more challenging: Introduce them to jumping off rocks/riverbanks into the water.

      How to make it safe: Make sure you know the tide and currents of the water that you’re planning to swim in, and constant supervision.  

      Whether it’s the sea, a river or a lake, conquering the fear of open water unlocks a world of fun and adventure. Although you have to be extremely cautious with water as the risk of drowning is extremely serious. But with the right preparation and knowledge, this can become one of the most exhilarating ways to spend time in the wild with your kid. Paddleboarding is also a great way to explore deep and open water with your kid.

        Conquered fear: Fire

        Recommended equipment: Firebox or firepit

        Ideal age: 4+

        Make it more challenging: Try to start a fire without matches or a lighter.

        How to make it safe: Make sure there’s no risk of the fire spreading. This includes making sure you don’t have a fire directly on the ground as fire can spread through the ground.

        Learning how to handle fire is a great skill for kids to learn. What’s better than huddling around a warm campfire, watching the flames? I like to call it Caveman’s TV. 

          Conquered fear: High speed

          Recommended equipment: Rope

          Ideal age: 2+

          Make it more challenging: Set up your own rope swing

          How to make it safe: Make sure the rope can take the child’s weight, that they know to hold on tightly and that they aren’t swinging straight into a tree!

          Who can resist a well-positioned rope swing? Taking a length of rope and setting up your own provides a great focus for time outdoors with your kids. If you can find somewhere to set it up safely into water then you’re in for a full-blown day’s worth of entertainment.

          Conquered fear: Sharp objects

          Recommended equipment: Anti-cut gloves and first aid kit

          Ideal age: 4+

          Make it more challenging: There are a number of different whittling tools and items to create with whittling so once you have conquered one tool or item, simply move onto the next!

          How to make it safe: constant 1 to 1 supervision is necessary for this activity at the beginning to ensure that it is safe.

          Learning how to handle a knife is a better way of keeping kids from injury than trying to put everything pointy out of their reach. It’s a standard activity in Scandinavian Forest Schools, whose kids start learning to handle a knife at 3 years of age! 

          If you’d like some fun adventurous ideas check out our free download ‘The Adventure Combination Game’ which provides over 4,000 potential adventure ideas. ‘The Adventure Combination Game’ overcomes some of the barriers to getting outdoors and enhances the benefits.  

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